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This is for the girls...

Don't you hate it when you have a friend, who is a guy, and people start making rumors saying that you're a couple and going out together? They think that your friend is your boyfriend when he really is just a friend. I've had that happen to me... Oh, how frustrating it had become...

I met this guy named Michael in Geography during my Freshman year, and we became friends. We'd help each other on the reading assignments and said hello to each other before class started. Everything seemed to go so smoothly my Freshman year.

But then things started to get a little crazy by Sophomore year. That year had to be my worst from High School. Michael and I had the same lunch hour, which made me feel pretty happy because then I wouldn't feel alone. We sat together and talked, laughing and having fun, as well as focusing on study guides. He also greeted me when I got to school to go to my Spanish class.

Then one day, people started asking me 'Ooooo, I've been seeing you around Michael. Is he your boyfriend? Are you two going out?'. Never did I expect to hear this from them. I was shocked when they asked me this, and it made me really upset. Seriously, can't a girl have friends who's a guy that is not my boyfriend? I wish people wouldn't jump to conclusions. The more I was asked this by surrounding people in my other classes, the more I got so annoyed I snapped, and I don't usually show my anger at school. I'm actually a very nice, silent, shy person...

What made my year even worse was that the rumors convinced Michael to believe that we were actually together as a couple. He started acting very odd around me, wrapping his arm around my waist, leaning over me to sniff my hair. I was terribly frightened. And the day after Valentine's day, he had given me a rose [I love roses...] but then he kissed me on the forehead without even asking me, and I squealed and lunged for Health class, and he tried to stop me, snatching my wrist and trying to pull me back. This had gone too far... I told him that we were only friends. I was comfortable enough to have him as a friend... And yet, after a few weeks or a month, he'd ask me if I've changed my mind and would beg for me to accept him as a boyfriend. Peer pressure peer pressure... I still wanted him as a friend :( So... eventually things settled down. We remained as friends.

Still... I hate it when people assume that a friend of mine [male] and I are dating when we are most certainly not. We can have friends of the opposite sex too!

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Update: Thank you all very much for the favorites! And I'm also happy to hear of others' similar stories!
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Tiktail Featured By Owner Dec 1, 2014  Professional Writer
That happens to me a lot, and it made me lost friends, because of misunderstands.

I am a girl, and the other girls get jealous and they think I will steal them the boy they love.

Please, I even told them that I don't want a couple! I live perfectly fine lonely!
anxiety-kitten Featured By Owner Edited Nov 16, 2014  New member Hobbyist Traditional Artist
This is something that is still hard for me to accept when it comes to my BF he is one of those guys with more female friends than male.. and I still assume the worst although he has always been faithful eventhough he lives far away from me. He always insist he loves me and that there is nobody else in the picture. I guess it's harder for me since I am not very good at making friend of my own gender..(I'm a girl btw.)
Loling223 Featured By Owner Nov 16, 2014
HOLY CRAP THIS X1000000000

Marshmallow-Bunnii Featured By Owner Nov 6, 2014   Writer
Happened to me in sixth grade :l

pissed me off to no ends
Savingfadingstars Featured By Owner Oct 24, 2014  Hobbyist Traditional Artist
This happened to me once, I talked to the guy for a few days, and BAM! Rumors everywhere. I'm actually dating the guy now, but it's been like a YEAR since the rumors started. Actually, when he asked me, I was only able to say yes cause the rumors died down.
DeMeNteD-WiNDMilLs Featured By Owner Edited Oct 21, 2014  Hobbyist Traditional Artist
i hate when people do that. i have guy friends that i goof around with and tease, so people automatically think i "like" them because they are of the mind set that if one teases someone who is of the opposite sex then they like that person :X but what they don't understand is that i do that with ally my friends regardless of their gender/sex; its just how i show my affection towards my friends. :/
not to mention people can't seem to accept the fact that i am not interested in having a romantic relationship at the moment. 
FlareTheFireWolf Featured By Owner Oct 19, 2014
This is true.
LightningChaser2000 Featured By Owner Oct 8, 2014  Hobbyist General Artist
Yeh. One time it went so far that every time someone asked if me and my friend Kris were dating I would physically punch him in the stomach to prove otherwise.
Hawkheart29 Featured By Owner Oct 2, 2014  Hobbyist General Artist
Forgot to mention my BFF thru out HS was a boy and everyone, even our inner circle friends, asked if we were a couple. Girls who were crushing on him would ask me if I was his girlfriend-no, we were (and still are) just friends......Which is ironic since we both wanted to be a couple but (he told me this himself after graduation) he had no idea how to proceed and since all I wasn't getting any response whenever I tried to flirt or drop hints, I came to the conclusion that he wasn't interested in a romantic relationship so I stopped and went back to being his BFF (which I didn't mind in the least).
Hawkheart29 Featured By Owner Oct 2, 2014  Hobbyist General Artist
I don't think he was trying to hurt you, I think he liked you as a friend and the rest was hormones talking (I had a guy friend in HS too who wanted to be more, but he got over it and we stayed friends). When it comes to the male sex and the wonderful hormones of puberty, always give them the benefit of the doubt (the first time, after that they've been warned and any farther attempts to be more-than-friends with you can be dealt with however you see fit; whether that's simply telling him 'no' or kneeing him in the nuts-your choice). My older brother describes the urges brought on by hormones like this "Imagine you're hooked on a drug and nothing in the world can get it out of your system or extinguish the craving." Yeah, basically their own personal Hell (I'll take cramps and PMS over that any day).
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